Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women

You have got to applaud a woman who puts her full name on a blog called Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women. Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah is the force behind what might be one of the most progressive forums on the African web, if only for the simple reason that the blog deals with stuff that usually remains behind closed doors.  With topics ranging from ‘How to Lick that Lollipop’ to ‘ Three Doesn’t Have to be a Crowd’, no topic is out-of-bounds. This blog goes there and there again.

Sekyiamah, who has a day job at a well-known NGO, writes the blog with a host of mostly anon guest contributors. Despite the ‘blush’ material, this is important work and deals with female sexuality in a refreshingly frank and open manner. In a 2012 interview, Sekyiamah explains the philosophy driving the project:

[blockquote source=”Nana Sekyiamah”]That’s the weird thing about the myths around the sexuality of black women. It’s extreme, contradictory and often irrational. On one hand we’re portrayed as hyper sexualized by the majority of commercially successful hip hop artists for example, (but) we’re objects of sexual curiosity and exotic to the white western male world, (going) as far back as Sarah Bartmann. To others (I would put African men in this bracket) we’re boring, unadventurous, and sexually unimaginative. None of these stereotypes in my opinion are true.[/blockquote]

Not everyone is on board with Sekyiamah’s mission to explode myths and to educate. Despite the fact that the blog contains an ‘adults only’ site block, the haters occasionally rear their heads:

[blockquote source=”anon”] I was wondering. Are you Kenyan? .. I think you are. What is this obsession with sex that you Kenyans possess. This is maybe the 5th Kenyan blog talking about sex…Have a grip of yourselves people…[/blockquote]

For the record, Sekyiamah is Ghanaian. Haters aside, we are big fans of the blog. Listen to Sekyiamah here in a radio interview and visit  her blog here. What do you think? #TMI or #wherehasthisbeenallmylife? Chime in below in the comments.